The Victim's Advocate...Why You May Never Know

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In one of the Discord Servers I am part of, a name was dropped while discussing Katie's article.  An individual said that they have come into knowledge about a person that made them appalled.

You might wonder why you don't know the facts of this case, or many others for that matter.  Katie hit on a few points, but they are not the only reasons you may not know the whole darker side of the Jedi you encounter.  Humans are far more complex than our fear.  What I want to hit on, is the role of the Victim Advocate, and waiting for the witnesses to make their public stand.  Which may or may not ever happen.

The Jedi Compass teaches us that action is a fine line.  While you might think that it should be an obvious answer that a Jedi who has been victimized would speak up, that isn't always the case.  They may end up taking other aspects of the Jedi Compass to heart more than others- such as Overcoming Attachments.  Furthermore, not every victim is a Jedi.  So their own value systems might play a larger role in working through the problem.  Recognizing that sometimes it's better to get over something quickly and drop their assailant like a bag of bricks in order to achieve something greater in their life.

Witnesses might want to come forward, but they are more concerned with the trust they have gained with the victim, than they are with the assailant receiving the reprimand they feel the assailant deserves.

In the military, we had some choices regarding trust stripped from us.  If we knew someone who was a victim of sexual assault, we were required by UCMJ to report it to the Military Police and/or our Chain of Command.  The only way it would be considered confidential is if you confided in the Chaplain, Victim Advocate and/or a medical team alone.  Talking with a Victim Advocate allowed you an opportunity to get all the evidence you needed so that if you decided a little later on you were ready to face your assailant, you could without worrying about a lack of physical evidence.  It also gave you access to counseling you might not otherwise be able to access.

But here, in the Jedi World?  It's a lot more like the Civilian World.  We keep secrets because the victim has decided not to move forward and tell their story.  A full website might know the whole story, maybe even two.  But when the victim travels outside of those orders, and decides to refrain from telling it to people that are strangers, that's a choice they are taking.  It's not always about fear.  Sometimes it's about letting go, because to hold on and work towards achieving the person's ruin is more effort than it's worth- and they have something far more awesome they could be achieving.  The Victim Advocate respects the survivor and their choices.  No matter how much they want to reveal the truth to the whole of the community.

What you don't know, you don't know.  And while you want to know...it's what the survivor has decided.  

*Not to take away from Katie's post. I want to reiterate that what she talks about is absolutely it's own problem.  Sometimes things get resolved, sometimes they don't, sometimes the person grows and changes their attitude, sometimes they don't.  Learning how to respond to those situations is something the Jedi Community is still learning how to work on as a whole.*

 

 

Comments on The Victim's Advocate...Why You May Never Know

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Satelle + Agreed, the situation where you know of a victim's experience and yet cannot speak for them because they have not given permission is a tricky thing. In those cases, I tend to let some time pass and then actively look for general ways to resolve the problem in the world. They may not be directly beneficial to the victim, but *usually* the root problem exists elsewhere too. We can learn from the victim's experience and work to address the root problem without violating the victim's wishes and... Show more 4 years ago
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